The Right Baraat Etiquette

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An Indian wedding is famous all over the world for the pageantry and rituals it comes with. One such essential ritual of a quintessential Indian wedding is the baraat. A procession that the groom's side of the family takes to the girls side to solemnize the wedding. The groom usually riding a horse, a horse drawn chariot and sometimes the car, is the center of attraction before the wedding party where of course the bride steals his thunder. But Indian baraat processions have also being associated with noisy, less sophisticated even boisterous processions that typically forget the convenience of thousands of people out on the roads and streets who are not getting married that day. So, to enjoy this typical custom there are some etiquette guidelines that one must follow. Read on below for a few points on how to be a considerate baraati.

The route:

Normally in city weddings the baraat procession arrives by cars till a distance only to disembark a short distance away from the brides wedding venue to indulge in some street singing and dancing repartee. But often the baraatis forget if it's could be a heavy traffic route that could be getting further choked thanks to their unbridled abandon. The better idea may be to enter the wedding venue and then carry out the customary singing and dancing once inside the venue and spare the unsuspecting public on the road.

The wait:

It is one of those mindless traditions but considered rude if were to gauge it in modern times when everyone is busy. The Baraat endlessly continuing their dancing and not moving an inch while the patient hosts from the girls side of the family wait for them to enter inside and set the wedding ceremony in motion. Often it is annoying for other guests too who are sandwiched between choosing to grab their meals before the baraat arrives or bear the torture of seeing each member break into a dance routine before they finally make their grand entry. Always be considerate of other people’s time and do not unnecessarily linger on the dancing jig.

The songs:

Sometimes a wedding ceremony becomes a harmless duel between the girls and boys side where they try to pull each other's legs but even though you may be doing it in good humor be mindful of what may cross the limits of witty repartee. Playing raunchy songs, passing crass comments and generally trying to act superior are all the things that constitute towards being a rude baraati. Avoid it and do not spoil the atmosphere of joviality.

Offer help:

While in Indian traditional set up the boys side or baraatis are considered as superior guests and the hosts try to do everything possible to make them feel important, it is a fairly bad idea to pretend that you command this respect. Be humble; offer to help the girls side in any arrangements and be mindful of other guests too. Offer the ladies and children seating places o offer to bring them the cutlery in the buffet. Make the experience as welcoming as possible for all the attendees.

Oct. 24, 2017, 5:25 a.m.